Children learn everything by looking at stuff around them; however, sometimes, they do not understand what they are feeling and are unable to control their impulses. It is when they come off as aggressive since they have problems regulating their emotions. There are some reasons for that; they may have attention deficit disorders that are ADD or hyperactivity. Perhaps, not only children but adults also face the same issue quite sometimes; many adults in the modern era are facing ADD, and so this issue shall not be taken lightly for that matter. Moreover, it is a severe problem for kids since they cannot speak for themselves. In contrast, adults can get the Adult ADD test by a clinical psychologist or a mental health professional and start working on themselves.
In this article, we will highlight some points to guide the parents having kids with ADD problem, on how to deal with the kids that are becoming aggressive by the day.
1- Please do not feel it on a personal level
When your child is acting out and not understanding your point, please do not feel like they are disrespecting you, or targeting you. The child suffering from such emotions is not understanding how he feels; he would never understand what he made you feel at that time. Therefore, be patient with them and know that they are going through something, and will be better someday, you have to keep trying.
2- Build a positive relationship
Even if your kids are misbehaving consistently, do not punish them or criticize them all the time. In this way, you will build a positive image and an approachable personality. If you come off too strong in front of your kids, they would not be able to come to you when they feel threatened; and that also not only when children have ADD but after they recover as well. Kids do not forget negative times, and it can make them challenging.
3- Praise them
It does not matter what accomplishment they make, even if they finish their food on time, praise them, and reward them with gifts if they try and control their anger. In this way, they would be motivated not to let their emotions get them; instead, they would try and fight against this problem. The negativity would be replaced with positive vibes, and an inseparable bond between you and the kids would be created as well.
4- Be patient
You must understand that your kid has no control over his emotions, and that is why he is aggressive. You have to stay calm and try to model regulating the feelings of your kids instead. You should help your kids feel their emotions by telling them you know how they feel. You can go like, “I know you are sad right now, you can stay with me until you feel a little better, what can I do to help you?”, something along the lines of this. It would have them make you their confidant, and it will help ease the process for them.
5- Identify their patterns
Try to see when your children act out, do they feel aggressive before going out of the house, or when they are hungry? You can set goals and let them know that you are going to be with them, and everything will be as smooth as butter. It will help them meet these set goals and not be angry that the time to eat showed up very fast, and they did not expect it to, for that matter.